Right well, this thread is for it you have any problems and would like to put them to the people on the forum for their advice!

I pretty much consider quite a few of u as friends now and I would respect and appriciate ALL of your opinions and advice cos I like everyone, I think we have alot in common and I think we could all help each other out as and when we have problems!

i have a problem - everyone laughs at me!

and i don't underdstand why.

:lol: like i said, we're laughing with u :angel

Right, I will start off........ Im going to copy and paste something I posted on another thread..........

Okay- so hopefully that sets the scene of what happened..... now my problem is that this is really playing on my mind... we arent very close to my bf's brother or his girlfriend.... but i have the feeling she is going to be around for a while and we r going to have lots of family things together and I dont want it to be awkward because I so genuinely didnt mean to upset her! The thing is I dont know HOW upset she was......

So do I purposely seek her out to apologise? And risk making an issue of something that isnt.......... OR

Do I ignore it and risk her thinking im a bitch????

aw this is so good, its great to feel as tho u can talk to ur friends about ur problems :hug

LOL- I was too slow- we are laughing with u PR! Cos u did something amusing!!!! We all love u really!!! Everyone does silly things sometimes! Haha

i'd apologise dini!

although i notice you ignore my problem. <_<

EDIT: ok, you have now. :D glad you laughing with me. i found it quite funny myself. although maybe not *as* funny as you lot.

what i would do is run away and hide (i hate confrontation)

but what i would wish to do if i was a better person like my best friend is just go up to her and apologise, and explain u werent laughing at her...it would clear the air.

that was quite unhelpful, sorry!

I had the giggles. Again. Gosh they are getting me in trouble recently!

I'd say apologise but just do it next time u dee her and make it seem rle casual, rather than hunting her down to to it.

hehe this is quite similar to my problem only worse.

wierd.

Thats what I wish I could do! What Im really worried about is if she turns around and doesnt know what im talking about cos she wasnt upset by it and we jus read it wrong! BUT, now she thinks about it!

I was also thinking maybe I cud jus send her an e-mail? Keep it casual.... ?

EDIT: just seen Mia's post- that is also a good idea... cos then I can judge by how she is with me whether it bothered her or not

yeah then u wont have other ppl watching which might embarrass u and/or her.

that's a good idea.

do that! do that!

this is my silly problem

i need to get dressed.

i also would like to write some more of my fic. i atcually have a piece of paper next to me to type up (i've written 'Mac and Guy')

but i'm having so much fun on here with you guys and getting distracted by captions i can't!

but u wont like the solution...everyone blank PR so she gets it done!

Yeah, MBG just wait til you see her, keep it casual.

Ok, I have a slight problem. My parents have gone on holiday for the week and I'm staying here looking after the dog. He's getting old now and has started getting a bit mean every now and then. My mum told my brother about this, so he's decided this week he's going to come and see the dog (not me - but then that's no surprise)

The problem is, he's bringing his wife, who I really don't like - we've got a history which I can't be bothered to go into. I'm civil around her, but I don't go out of my way to pretend I like her because I'm not fake like that.

The thing is, she is *so* paranoid, and I know that when they leave she's going to say to Kevin (my brother) that I was being funny - she does it every time, and I *know* I'm not, because I make an effort to be civil. I don't like the way she bad mouths me to my brother, and I know the only reason he's coming is because of the dog.

Should I make an effort to act nicer towards her, or just say 'feck it' and be polite and just wait for the backlash?


Sorry thats so longwinded!

Tricky.

Maybe be a bit nicer, and see what happens. If she still thinks ur being funny and tells ur brother then i wouldnt bother anymore.

Sorry thats probably not all that helpful.

that's probably what iwould say.

and for all who are interested, i am attempting to tear myself away from the computer.

Thats difficult! Does your brother believe what she says about you? Because that seems like a bigger problem if he does! I think what I would do (with what u have told us, obviously, I dont know everything) I would be as nice as I could possibly manage to be while she is there, and if she still has a problem then talk to ur brother, tell him u dont know what more you could do, and that you think she is the one being funny with you.

Thanks for the advice guys - yeah he does believe it, because he's gone home and then rang my mum up asking what my problem was, which I honestly don't understand at all.

I will try my hardest to be nicer to her, even though she is a bint. Thanks again!

Aww Sammie :hug Sounds like a horrible problem! Push her over a cliff? Its a shame ur brother doesnt talk to you directly about it! She sounds like she is being very childish and silly!

:hug Thanks hun. I was thinking of poisoning her, but pushing her off a cliff would be such fun! I know - I was never that close to him but I'm annoyed he says nothing to me about it.

Yeah, I can sympathise, getting ur mum involved, when he is an adult, is just annoying! If it gets too much you could just confront him about it, see what he has to say to ur face.





What do u guys think of my e-mail I was about to sent Kat?

Hi Kat, how are you? It was nice to see u and fraser at dinner the other night, glad to see things are going well and u both had a good holiday! Ali told me that he thinks that me and Nat might have upset you at dinner, when we got a bit silly and hysterical... im really sorry if we did, we made a bit of a show of ourselves, we werent laughing at anything in particular, except maybe alan spilling champagne over all the food. we were just being idiots. I am equally sorry that i didnt notice u were upset, because if i had then i would have apologised straight away! Anyway, I hope you are okay and i hope we are still friends? Speak soon, Dini

Go for it? or leave it?

No thats fine! I would send it.

I'd say go for it, the apology is rle subtle (in a good way)and makes its point whilst still sounding casual.

Cool, its sent.... I'll let u know if she gets angry! lol Thats what I was going for, subtle and making the point that it was us that were being stupid (cos we were)

Oooh, great idea for a thread. All of your advice to everyone has been ace, guys, I can't really add anything. :D
I have a problem, which I can't really do anything about, but I'll share anyway. There's a boy at my school who I really like, and we used to chat loads and |I think a few months ago he liked me too. Unfortunately neither of us did anything about it, and then he asked this other (really annoying) girl out... Is there anything I can do besides murdering her horribly without him knowing? :D

:hug for SF. I think in my years on this earth I can safely say I've been there, and it really blows. All I can say is, his new girlfriend probably won't last forever, you just have to give it time and hopefully he'll realise that he wants to be with you. In the mean time, stay friendly with him, but give him space to realise he's with the wrong girl.

Aww gah :hug This so happened to me when I was at school! Me and the guy are still best mates! I agree with POAP's advice! My guy realised the girl was a pratt eventually!

:hug Thanks POAP! I think you're right, I should just give it time. My friends said I should spread evil rumours about her...But then they're evil. Hehe. :D

That would be a dangerous route to take, even though it would be satisfying! Because if he traces them back to you, he'll be angry! And, if she gets upset and he has to look after her they will just get closer!

Yeah, exactly. It's just my friends are cruel. :D Hehe.

I need to lose weight before the last weekend in August.... or it'll end up being really hot and I wont be able to wear my bikini at Reading!

Do you have a target weight loss? That might help you a bit.

I think about 8- 10lbs would be best..... but I think that falls into the realms of unrealistic!

Don't be silly - I'm sure you could do that. What you want to do is work out how long it will take you to lose the weight (or for whenever you want to lose it) and aim for a little amount each week or fortnight. It's easier if you break it down. My friend recently went on a diet and did that and it's worked so well for her.

Yeah, I need to do some serious working out I think...just diet isnt going to work! Gah, I cud jus kill myself for putting it on! I normally lose weight over the summer, this year iv put on a tonne! I only have 3 weeks *depressed*

Don't worry hun, you'll be able to do it, I have faith in ye. Is there anyone else who would do it with you? It might help knowing someone else is losing weight though.

Don't lose too much, you're gorgeous anyway!

Aw thanks! I just wanna feel better in my bikini for Reading...all my mates are very thin and will be strutting their stuff! Jus want a confidence boost! I will start 2moro, take a decent lunch to work with me, stop eating the rubbish they eat at work!