I want to know how you guys feel about it. Are you married or plan on it? Are you unsure? How old do you feel a person should be or is age not a factor?

I'm married, and have been for three months to the date. The thing is, I'm 18, and many people don't seem to approve of it. Both of our families thankfully do, and believe we made a good choice, and we couldn't be happier. However, it's hurtful when people ask me if I'm crazy, or ask if our marriage is for real. Also if people assume it's because I'm pregnant or had a baby. I am not and have not, we simply are in love and thought it through for a long time. I understand many people who marry young don't understand the responsibility and commitment involved and end up divorcing, but why do people generalize us, and furthermore, why do they bother asking such rude questions?

Sorry, just venting, but what are your views on marriage?

Well...My mother's friend's daughter is 18 and married and nobody is saying to her that she is crazy. She's in love like you are. I don't see nothing wrong with that. (And I'm 13!! :ermm:) But honestly I think it's sweet that some people get married "so soon". ^_^

I hope that my english isn't too bad for you to read. >_<

I'm glad people aren't being like that to her. I think it's sweet too, it all depends on the people in my opinion. Your English is great!

To be honest, I never expected to get married so soon, but I'm happy I did ^_^ even if it's tough sometimes. I guess I'm a romantic at heart, no wonder I love Cloud X Aerith :wub:

I'm not married, and I'm not sure if I plan on it, or not. It all depends on the person I meet, and my situation at that time. I don't believe age is a factor, but I do believe that it shou;d be clearly and carefully thought through, and talked about with the partner. Like you, Tacofoolio, it's obvious that you knew what you were doing, and it's made you happy. :) I am happy for you, even though people might think 18 is too young, you hare obviously mature and wise enough to make the decision, since it's worked out for you. People can't help it, if they fall in love, and if they're sure it's the right time and person, then something shouldn't stand in their way from a happy future together. As for me, the whole idea of marriage seems a bit silly, and strange. But, that's just me, and I support anyone who wishes or doesn't wish to get married.

Alot of ppl think that getting married at a young age is not the right age.
They just think we dont have the experiences in life to know what is expected when getting ourselves into these sort of situations. As long as you r happy, then i guess enuff sed.

I think that marriage is a wonderful and beautiful thing. I also think that it is very serious and indissoluble under most circumstances.

Most people think that marriage at a young age is unwise because, under most circumstances, they think that those involved are not sure what they want or need. In most cases, it seems as if the decision is taken too hastily without proper appreciation for what is at risk and the troubles that marraige at a young age may bring.

Nevertheless, there are couples that marry at young ages that find decades later that they could not have made a better choice, having endured all of marriage's hardships together.

I pray that you will be of the latter group. :)

Yeah, I agree with all of you. It is something that has to be thought out for a long time, and with a level head. I thought it out for a long time, but I still didn't know how much work it would be. You have to be ready to think of yourselves as a whole, and you have to learn to not be selfish in your decissions. It may be tough at first but now that I'm married, it's all come together. A lot of people don't think they'll ever get married though, why is that?

Why do I think I'll never get married? I just can't imagine being with the same person my whole life, living together, always being together. I think it's because I haven't experienced true love. If it's not the right person, then it will just be irritating to be around them all the time, and living together, etc. This is why I don't think I'll ever get married, because I don't believe that I'll find someone to spend the rest of my life with. I don't want people to take this the wrong way, I'm not sad about it, I don't even care at this point. Maybe someday I'll find someone, though, who knows?

I'm not married... but I plan to get married around the age of 25... hopefully I find the "unfortunate guy" who is destined to be with me forever. :angel:

If you're 18 and you're married and people think you're crazy, don't listen to them. I think 18 is legal, and I think that it doesn't matter what age you are when you're in-love. Love doesn't choose any age! As long as there is love, nothing else matters, right? *goes on a sentimental trip* :huggle:

But really, if you think you're mature enough to handle marital situations, then I think it's okay. Just enjoy married life to the fullest and don't let other people bring you down or try to separate you. :cleris:

Marriage? Marriage, marriage.... Although at this point of my life I don't think I'll EVER be married, I got some thoughts on this...

Being married at 18 doesn't sound bad to me... it sounds risky, yes, but not necessarily bad. It's legal to be married at 18--the only reason why people feel uneasy for you is that 18 is such a young age.

But what is age? According to that cliche, it's 'just a number,' but in society, it's such a big deal. Older generations blame the youngins for the horrible things in society today, but are we really the ones to be blamed? (Okay, that's a different story)

But I don't think age is a defining factor in the correctness of a marriage. It's a factor, but at the end of the day, age shouldn't matter when you decide to get married to the one you love. Hey, it's your choice to make. :)

My boyfriend and I have been together almost 4 years, and have been living together for about most of that time (we were friends for a long time beforehand). Our parents were friends even before we were (they actually introduced us to each other back when we were in second grade :huggle: ), and it often feels like we're more like brother and sister than boyfriend and girlfriend (you should hear us argue :lol: ) ... We're both almost finished with college now; neither of us have considered getting married, at least until we're out of college. But then again, neither of us see a reason to get married other than for practicality/convenience (tax purposes/being able to have joint bank accounts/etc. :lol: ) I don't really see the purpose of needing to institutionalize a relationship, unless you are religious (or you just simply like the idea. ^_^ )

Well, first of all, I could dig being married right now. But my mom would kill me, and I think I can wait a few years

Second of all, a lady in my church was married at 18, and she and her husband are still QUITE happily married and their eldest daughter just gave them their first grandbaby. So obviously early marriage CAN work

I agree with most people here, marriage is a beautiful thing. In most countries, legal marriage is at eighteen years old, while in Japan, legal marriage is at sixteen! Imagine that! :ermm:

When it comes to marriage, it depends on how long your relationship has been, and if there have been more hard times than good times. Age doesn't really matter in love, but I'll feel slightly disturbed if the age gap (as in between the bride and groom) is more than eight years.

I don't plan on getting married soon (no way! I'm still twelve!) but if I want to, I want to be married at around twenty-seven, when I've seen the world. :winner:

My mother married young, actually, when she was 17. She knew my Father for a very long time, so I really dont' see a problem with it. The thing is, they didnt' have my brother and myself until about 10 years later after their marriage.

I say if you're both mature and can handle it, then by all means, go for it.

Okay, marriage it up to the people that are planning on getting married. The best way to go is start out as friends, then develop the bf/gf thing and then wait a few YEARS then get married. But you have to be ready for it. When I was with Mike, we would always talk about our wedding. Now, it sickens me. Anyway, then main thing is you both have to be ready. I'm not trying to be mean, but I don't think 18 is when you are. If you're mature, then maybe. I'm planning on marraige when I'm like 30 or so. I don't want to give up my fun (O.o, what fun?) for one guy. Just because I love a guy doesn't mean I want to marry him. If you don't want to get married when he ask you, tell him no and wait a couple of more years or something.

I can see where you're coming from Iris, and I actually do agree that a lot of 18 year olds aren't ready. For me it was the right choice though, and we didn't go into it too quickly, we'd been together over 4 years before we married, and lived together beforehand. You do need to be mature to make that decision, because it's a huge step. Marriage also isn't all about romance, you need to have friendship, commitment, compatibility, and you have to learn to accept each other's flaws. If you don't, then marriage will not work.

No one will ever know exactly why two people marry and have a successful one, it really can't be spoken. I think it goes beyond age, looks, money, etc., and it comes down to something that just binds you together.

Atleast you guys were ready for commitment. Someone I know is afraid of it *cough* Mike Kauffman *cough*. Anyway, I'm glad that you saw what I meant.

I'd simply love to marry! I'm not old enough, but when i am, i will.
I think marrying is every little girls dream. To get all dressed up, with the man you truely love.... a dream come true. :blush:

Sadly, some people just marry for the heck of it. Then a year later, their devorced.
Marrage is not a game. Love is a main ingredient to a relationship, but theirs also those other little ones that make the relationship work.

I think it's completely pointless. I am not religious, so why lie in a Holy place just to get wed?

i have a guy friend.. he's not yet my boyfriend because i promised my mom that i wouldn't have a boyfriend until i'm old enough (3rd year college, acdg. to her) .. anyway.. he has to wait for 3 years.. erm.. this february 19, we'll have only 1 more year to go.. ^_^, i'd be 19 by then..

we'll have to wait, erm.. for at least 7 more years before we could get married because we'll want to be able to support ourselves first... graduate, get a good job, earn some money.. that kind of thing..

it'll be a very very long wait but it'll be worth it... i really am excited though... :blush:

anyway, my point is that there's nothing wrong with having to wait (albeit it's a bit tiring)... i think you should only get married if you can support yourselves fully, without having to ask help from others... see, there are a lot young couples who would borrow money just to pay for their electric bills, baby's milk, etc. etc. because they got married before they could actually live on their own..

but hey, if you can support yourselves fully at such a young age, then why not? :lmao:

Personally... i 'may' get married one day if my partner feels passionatly about it.

Not that bothered personally.

But if i do no way will it be before i'm 25/26; i want to live my life first.

*bumps*

i would luv to get married! I think everyone does deep down..... :D i cant wait till i find my soul mate..... hope he's super cute! :fangirl:

if you and your spouse think that you were ready when you got married, and youre happy now, then its the best thing you couldve done, what everyone else thinks doesnt matter.

im only 15, and id love to get married. i made a promise, by the time im 25, ill be married and have a kid. ^_^

I want to get married to my true love. My future husband.

Well, I don't see anything wrong with getting married at 18, as long as it's a decision that you two have thought about and decided upon on mutually, weighing all the pros and cons as well as your feelings. Best wishes to you both! :gift:

Me, I don't know. I'm not too keen on getting married- I haven't made it one of the major goals in my life, but all my friends say it's only because I haven't had the 'experience' of having a boyfriend yet. If I meet the one for me, though, I'll be happy to get married to him- but without too much fuss and feathers. :D

I must say, Marriage was never one of my original plans at first, but I am very happy with making that choice. I will admit there have been rough spots, but we've always pushed through them, and have been happier than ever. It's going on 1 1/2 years already, how crazy is that! I definately wouldn't say everyone is ready to marry so young, and I think that it's good for you to only get married if you have a good sense of who you are without them too. You need to really be prepared to make sacrifices, but you have to be mature enough not to be bitter about the ones you've made. Also, once you do, be sure to still have fun, because some of our best times are when we play video games and laugh at comedians, or go to the arcade. I think it's good to still have dates sometimes, especially if you are young. I still get to have the fun of going out with the guy I love, but also get the joy of marriage that way.

If anyone ever has any questions for me, I'd be happy to help if I can. ^_^

Homgz, Stulicious ith in ze seriaz discussion area for once?! LAWL. xD

Anyways! Onto ze subject, marriagez, plz. :tard:

Honestly, for me, I don't think I'll ever get married, I'm gorge-ass and all, but I don't think I've ever had much luck in love... :sweat: And Rikku ph34rs rejection, so I usually don't get into many relationships because of that, also I see SO many peoplez' parents and shizzlez around me getting divorced ALL the time! There are so few people I know still together! It's CRAZY. Then again, my parents are teh lucky and have been together the whole time. <3 So mebbe I shouldn't be so negative! Eh, I guess I'll find ze Mr. Right someday... :sweat:

Now, speaking on young marriage and shiz, my parents got married young! <3 My mom was 19 and my dad was 21! It's absolutely adorable, they've been married for what....20 years now? And I don't see them seperating any time soon! xD That's probably the only thing that keeps me hopeful I'LL have a long and good marriage... xD That and my gorge-assnezz :plot:

Hm, if I did get married, I'd wanna get married sometime around 25, but before 30, j00 know, gotta finish college and all that shizzle first I guess. xD

True, i do see alot of couples separating alot.... it makes me sad though.... so many people take marrage lightly.... and it shouldn't!

Thats why marrages should be thought over.
Psh... i ask my mom "why did you marry my dad? I find nothing attractive about him.." Seriously, i don't.
But, i guess love makes me people do CRAZY things... i'm my parents case anyways...

Uh, why would you be attracted to your dad? Thats kinda creepy. Haha, jk.

:D :D :D
:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

I mean, IF i were able to marry a guy LIKE my dad.(which I'M not) I don't find my dad attractive in the PERVE way you think Bremic.... teehee :fangirl: What runs through his dirty mind....JK..
But, thats what makes you that more lovable! My little star war crazed perve! I just love it that way! *giggles and snuggles Bremic*
Hey, you didn't answer the threads question.... you just replied to tease me!

I presonally agree with marriage as a way to comitt yourself to someone you love. Marriage to me is sacred, it is when you vow to give your life to the person, because you love them. And you want to spend the rest of your life with them. I don't think Age is a factor, it is love. You can be however old you want...probably youngest though is 18 because kids still make dumb choices sometimes so...

I personally want to get married, but.....sadly I can't, gay issue. But another topic for another debate. ^^ but marriage to me is when two people love eachother and vow to be togeather until the end.

Congrats on the marriage btw!