Agree 100%. I usually get more of a shippy heart-attack to see my favourite couple hold hands than making out. Sometimes, the very small things signify much more than the steamiest sex-scenes. Kissing and all that kind of tension is about passion, and that's an impermenant thing. But love is the thing that gets built underneath that, and if it's real, then it can endure. Sex and excitement is definitely not bad for a relationship, but it can't be all that defines it either. If more people waited until the "honeymoon period" of a relationship was over before considering a commitment as serious as marriage, I'm betting there'd be fewer divorces. :P At some point "You're the reason I breathe" becomes "Honey, could you take out the trash?" and love if what helps you cope and be okay with it when that happens (in my opinion, anyway).
Staying on-topic, I generally don't like it in a series when they go down the soap-opera route and try to keep the pairing "exciting" by constantly breaking them up rather than developing the relationship and showing how a happy and stable relationship can be interesting and exciting without all the drama of breaking-up and getting back together again. I know that real relationships don't always last and have their on/off moments, but I hate to see that kind of thing reduced to plot-device and instant-tension-creator.
Especially when it comes at the cost of actually, y'know,
going somewhere with the relationship and
developing the characters beyond "I love you, I love you not". A real adult relationship should be about more than that. The "will-they-won't-they" stage of a fictional relationship is always very appealling, but I dislike it when writers try to draw it out and recreate it by constantly breaking up a pair and dangling a reconciliation in front of us. It just makes the relationship look unhealthy, like it could never really work on a long-term basis. <_<
I do go for a few (totally fanon) pairings that could never work out, or were doomed from the start, and where the beauty of it is that they never could stay together were they to get involved because the whole scenario is just a ticking time bomb, but I wouldn't say that they "break up" so much as implode. All too melodramatic for "breaking up" to be an accurate description. :P
But if I had to pick a couple who "broke up", the closest I can think of is John/Aeryn from
Farscape (here's a
wiki link for anyone unfamiliar with the show). They are an awesome couple who were annoyingly on-again/off-again for ages, though they stayed together in the end (woot). :fangirl:
Btw, because I'm too tired and lazy and lazy to post the how and why right now (especially cause the on/off dynamic doesn't do much for me, but it's just that this pairing is the exception), here's John and Aeryn's
Top 25 Romantic Moments, if anyone's interested.