I know that everyone's real sick of hearing about my boyfriend, but as my feelings for him run deeper than my feelings for anything else, he's what I care enough to write stuff about when I get upset.
So, the deal is that he's up in Oregon currently for school. The original plan was he'd be up there for one quarter, then come home. Well, he just sprang on me that not only had he decided to stay another quarter days ago, but had already registered for classes. It was a real "WTF?" moment.
Last I'd heard from him about it, he had decided NOT to stay, but to come home and stay home(well, until he leaves on a religious mission which had become a maybe), so I was all set and mentally prepared to have him here. But all of a sudden, he just SPRINGS it on me "lawl I'm staying!" Heck, even in the beginning of the conversation he was saying "Well, I miiiiight stay".
I just feel that it was really unfair of him to keep his decision from me, and then to spring it on me like that. Espcially when it's something as hard as this to take.
So now I've gotta learn to deal with this, and get myself prepared for it, on top of getting ready for finals and finishing out a semseter of school, and getting ready for Christmas and...gah, too much is piling up on Sefie again.

hmm...maybe he just likes it there and finds it hard to go?

Aww...poor Sefie! :huggle:

I'm gonna have to say, your boyfriend was kindof jerk-ish to spring this kind of news to you like that. But then again, a lot of guys are unitentionally jerk-ish, so he probably thought it wasn't too big of a deal.

From my view, I think he may just want to stay there because after settling down, making some new friends, and getting comfortable with your new enviornment, its kind of hard to go back so soon. Also, it may be harder for him to study, by going back home. I don't know the whole story though, so I can't really say that much.

Aww...Take things one step at a time! Try not to stress yourself out too much (if thats possible around the Christmas season o_0). I know its hard, but keep trying and don't give up! (er..that sounded corny XD) When it becomes too much for you, take a day off and give yourself a brake. You certainly deserve it! :huggle: I hope everything turns out alright for you! ^^

I forgot to mention something: We're Mormon, so he wants to go on a religious mission for two years after he finishes this. That means Sefie has to sit around and wait for him for two and a half years. And he dares to get mad at me for being upset >.<

So he's finishing college before going on his mission? :unsure:


Anyways, Sefie, I know how mad I get when people just spring things on me. It pushes all of my buttons. I'm so sorry. The Christmas holidays can be stressful enough without you having to deal with this. :huggle:

I hope everything works out okay.

His life's been going in an...interesting order. He joined the church at 23, and is almost 26(for those who don't know, you're supposed to go on a mission at 19ish), hasn't finished school and is just...Oh I don't know. Sefie's just frustrated.
She also just realized this thread should be in General Chat >.< *Movez*

I am personally paranoid about things when it comes to my fiance. I thought he was cheating for a LONG time until I moved in with him and now I know he just doesn't have the time for that. :lol: But if I were in your situation, I'd definately be wondering what's up. Like what is so important over there to make up his mind to stay so much longer in a very short time without even telling you? I'd definately have a long talk with him over it and make sure he tells you his reasons. Also women have this little sixth sense thing. If they feel something just isn't right, usually that feeling is correct. Just listen to what your heart tells you.

That's actually the last of my worries CG, he's REALLY not that kinda guy, furthermore we're Mormon(and actually good Mormons who live up to the standards). He's up in Oregon for a special college PROGRAM, so it's not just school. He feels that he's not done enough in the program.
Anyways, we talked it out on Sunday, he told me the real reason he hadn't told me(why he didn't just tell me at first I have no clue), and his reasons for wanting to stay. They are valid, and we talked about it. I managed to convince him to at least re-consider, so he's gonna pray about it and let me know the answer. I think I already know the answer, but it's worth a try.

I'm sorry Sefie, If anyone knows what a long distance relationship feels like, it's me, and I'm always ready to talk to you. I know that whatever he decides though you two will figure out what's right for you, and you'll have my and all your friends' support if you're feeling alone. I know it's not the same, but it really helps. :huggle:

I'm so sorry about your boyfriend problems, Sefie. :hug: I remember what it was like to have these kinds of issues, and they're painful.

First things first, if you talked this out with your boyfriend, and you're ready to be committed if he goes away for x number of years, that's what matters. From my own experience, I know that it's easy to say you'll be in love with him forever and those years of seperation won't matter. But it's much harder to follow through, and I don't mean that to be a negative. I say it to be pragmatic. But if you guys are ready to make that promise, I'm sure it's the best decision for your relationship.

Best of luck to both of you. I hope you'll keep each other happy.

Thanks guys :lol: We've actually talked it out now, and I feel it's unfair of me to expect him to come back to Sacramento for just me(since I'm the only thing that he would WANT to come back for): The air sucks, the water sucks, his friends suck....yah, there's really no reason for him TO come back. I can make it three more months.
'Sides, it just means I'll have more time for you guys!