Aurora did a VERY stupid thing today. AAAAAHHHHH I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW STUPID I WAS!!!!!! So I have to vent right here, right now. Okay here's the story...

There's this guy that I like a lot and we've been hanging out a lot lately. His name's Andre, and he's one of those guys that people in the music department at my college absolutely love or absolutely hate.

In the first few weeks of school one of my friends told me Andre broke up with his girlfriend. Actually, it was his fiancee. My friend Krysta, also a musician, told me her name, but I didn't know who she was, so I just kind of forgot about it. In-one-ear-out-the-other kind of thing.

So anyway...Krysta introduced me to one of her friends Christina recently ad we hit it off great. Today me and Christina were walking to class. I was telling her about this great performing class I was in, and that basically anyone could just drop in since it's no-credit and optional. She seemed really interested to come along, and she asked, "Who's in it?" And I just rambled off a few names off the top of my head... "Hmm, let's see....Elizabeth, Michelle, Andre...." And she said, laughing a little uncomfortably, "Oh, Andre? Hmm, I think I'll have to pass then."

I laughed too, because I know that there's so many people that DESPISE Andre. So I went on saying, "Yeah, I know, he's one of those people you have to love or hate. But I really like him, I think he's a great guy. But I'm sure you won't see him in the class much anyway since people go when they please, or even if you do see him, it wouldn't really matter since it's a pretty big class anyway..." Blah blah blah. I went flying off the handle. I even went on to say how good a singer Andre is and that she'd might enjoy watching him perform.

So then she said, "Well, it depends, I'll think about it. But me and Andre had a...thing, and something happened a few weeks ago, so...I think I'll pass for today."

And then I realized -- HOLY CRAP -- SHE WAS HIS FIANCEE!!!! And I just HAD to go on saying Andre this, Andre that, Andre's REALLY a great guy and everything, just give him a chance!

AAAAUUUUGGGGGHHHH!!!!! :blast:

She probably hates me now! And I hope she doesn't think that I like him. (Because I do!)

Relax, hon, I'm sure she doesn't hate you. She probably doesn't think you like him, only that you were trying to convince her to join in. Plus, you didn't know that she was his fiancee, so no harm done I'd say.

Don't worry, I've done the whole foot-in-mouth thing plenty of times, it'll be okay. ^_^

Thanks for replying, Zelda. :huggle: *sigh* I hope she doesn't think I like him. I'm just afraid that she'll find out I like him, because the more I think about it, the more I think I've made it very obvious.

Of course, if something happens between Andre and me, she'll REALLY hate me. But I don't think I'm going to let myself get involved with him (not yet anyway) because I don't want to be the "rebound" girlfriend. But I think he may kind of like me, because he's extremely flirtatious XDD

It's just that, I feel so stupid -- it all makes sense now! Sometimes I'd talk about him to Krysta and Christina, and she would kind of grow really quiet or change the subject. Krysta never said anything though. Plus, she had told me about their break-up weeks before I met her.

I feel so duuuuumb :tard: And she's just such a cool person, we have so much and common, and we've started to become good friends. Now I'm reconsidering my position between her and Andre. I don't know what to do. :(

I'm the same way with my crushes. I feel so obvious. :blush: I usually ask another one of my friends if I am or not, and if I am I ask what gives me away so I can work on it.

I'm a big believer in sistahs before mistahs. If you and this girl are becoming good friends, you shouldn't let this situation stop that and miss out on a great friendship.

It's good that you should wait a little with him rather than be the rebound, because of course there's always the danger that they'll do the break up/make up thing, which you don't want to get caught in the middle of and get yourself hurt. Also, waiting will get you get a better handle on the situation and whether or not this guy is worth it all.

And don't worry about her hating you. :huggle: I think it'll be okay as long as anything between you and him happens a little down the road (she's obviously still hurt) and when and if the time comes that you guys decide to hook up you're honest with her.

This is Zelda's love advice for the day! XD

Ehh, it sounds like she's okay with the fact that she and Andre' broke up. You might wanna wait a few more weeks before letting anything happen though ;)
Know what the best remedy is? TALK TO HER. Tell her you didn't know Andre' was her ex, she sounds really nice and reasonable, I'm sure she'll understand

Thanks for the advice you guys. :huggle: Yeah, I'm definetely going to wait until farther down the road to see if anything with Andre is possible. They're in a tough situation right now that I'd prefer not to be in the middle of... :unsure:

I think I just won't bring up Andre with Christina again ^^; I'll be more careful about what I say around her, because I know it must be hard to break up with someone you were supposed to marry.

Wow, that must of been interesting. :mellow:
And, try not to get so worked up about the situation. Just relax. And, if you still think she hates you, (which I'm sure she doesn't if she's your friend) Explain to her. Tell her exactly what you thought, and that you didn't mean it. Talk to her. Let her know that your sorry.

Things are pretty cool now actually. ^^;; I can breathe a sigh of relief now. It turns out that Andre and her are now still good friends. They're very understanding that they're better as friends than anything else. So I don't feel weird hanging out with one or the other... :lol: Augh! What a nightmare it was though! I'm so relieved! ^_^

Glad to hear it all worked out, it can be rough when you feel like by saying one thing that you've done too much damage to fix. Luckily it was all fine and you've ended up with a good friend out of it all! :huggle: Like everyone said, it's probably good to wait awhile, but don't wait to long. I'm sure you'll know when the right time comes.