I'm not suprised it happened. My boyfriend and I broke up.... Yes it's supposed to be a time where you're sad, but I didn't feel....anything. I just shrugged, and said, "Okay. So what?"
I was totally indifferent about the situation, and he looked kind of sad. Am I wrong? I was expecting it since we were having complications in our relationship. I dunno. I feel like I did something wrong... Did I?

I don't think you're wrong or you've done anything wrong. You feel what you feel. Besides, you weren't hurt or affected so much because it was what you were expecting anyway. He was probably hurt because of your lack of emotion or perhaps he didn't expect things to turn out the way they did (I'm not sure, since you haven't explained the situation). But since the two of you were probably growing apart anyway, this would explain your lack of sadness. So don't feel wrong or guilty or anything. You can't help what you feel.

Hun, the same thing happened to me. I was going out with the same guy for two years, and we recently decided to break up. Was I sad? Absolutely not. I'm glad the relationship finally ended. I felt suffocated, and had no time to spend time on my creative pursuits (*cough*writing*cough*). Everytime I wanted to spend a weekend working on my novel and reading, he would get offended. To be honest, I got sick to death of our relationship. Deciding to end it was one of the better decisions I've made in a long time. In fact, the day after I broke up with him, I had one of the GREATEST days in years! Not only did I feel so free, but I skipped school with my friends to attend a protest in the city. I couldn't have been happier that we broke up.

So just because society and TV tell you that you're supposed to be sad when a relationship ends doesn't mean that it's true.

Being in relatonships is EXTREMELY overrated now. People forget how awesome single life can be and they try so hard to get someone, even when it is at the cost of happiness. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is like a status symbol and it's disgusting.

So congrats to you for being yourself! :lol:

Aw, thanks guys! ^_^ It's just...I do feel more free! NOW I CAN FLIRT WITH PEOPLE AND NOT BE GLARED AT, YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY! :P Besides, the reason we were, well, falling apart was because he loved me, but I didn't feel the same. Actually my heart still belongs to someone else, and that strained the relationship. I never cheated on him, but I felt torn between two people who loved me, and it was just a big mess. The guy I'm in love with is in South Carolina, but he wants to move up here to be with me. Though i tried to encourage my now ex-boyfriend there was a possibility I could be with him, he continued to get jealous. So we distanted, and yeah.... That's the reason why I felt guilty though. Still it was expected, though I actually believe we could have had something great if he hadn't been so stubborn and jealous.... <_<

Hee, I quite ENJOYED it the last time I was single! (And now i'll never be single again...:blink:) It was quite nice to flirt, hunt and the like, so enjoy it! Live it up! Don't feel guilty about being happy, it's a good thing. It means you aren't clinging to the past

A break up is human nature. A guy who really can't help but to always feel envy on other guys may sometimes be positive to me though, because he really loves you(depends).

Sorry, but it bothers me...so you love someone else when you and now you're ex are still together?

Well the thing is we agreed to see other people, and to not hold eachother back from going onto other relationships. ...But it's really hard to do, so it was like a tug-o-war. It bothered me too, but I still wanted to try to at least live my life a little instead of waiting for someone who I might never see again.

Alright, I'll be honest with you. I don't think anyone can blame you for being indifferent to it, especially after explaining that you were expecting it. If any friends of the two of you are upset with you though, it could be because of what you said more. I'm not sure how long you were together, but if it was awhile, people are going to feel that you weren't considering how he might feel at all by saying, "Okay. So what?". Even when you no longer feel emotionally attached, you can't ignore that he was. I'm not saying that you have to plan everything around his pain, but during the actual break-up people might be upset by your words.

I'm not going to judge you for loving someone else while you were dating someone else, but keep in mind some people will, and in a sense, even if it wasn't physically, emotionally you were cheating. It's something that you couldn't really help, but it was still happening.

Please don't feel bad about what I've said, I just have heard about enough high school break-ups and such that I know the drama that can happen and would rather you be prepared. I definately think you should enjoy yourself and be happy that you've given yourself the chance to be happy. But there's going to be people who take his side, so try not to feel hurt by it. Good luck in everything and I hope that everything goes by dramafree! :huggle: If you need more advice, be sure to ask!

Thanks Tacofoolio. ^_^ You are really good at giving advice! I might take up your offer sometime so be prepared! :P