Something I've often pondered is: How does love work? I mean, one person feels tender toward another, something happens inside of them, and suddenly they care more for that person than life itself. And somehow, that other person feels the same way. How does this happen? How is it that such a complex, personal feeling can be felt by another without either trying?

It is very hard to explain... umm... how should I put this?

Ahh, crap... i can't explain it, all i can say is this. It's completely amazing.

I can't explain why I feel the way I do for the girl I love, but i would still gladly jump in front of a train for her sake...


I wish I could say more...

Well said. I could say the same thing...... :)

It's that unconditional love *happy sigh*

no matter what she does, i'll still love her the same

If you think too much your head will explode...so that's why I am not even going to try and understand how love works. :P

LOL, that's usually my standpoint, but I've just fallen in love AGAIN, and this time, it's a little different.
Ya see, this time it was love at first sight, seriously. The first time I saw/heard him talk, I was struck. I didn't know what I was feeling for several days, and then once I figured it out a friend found out he felt the same.
So, how can THAT work? How can you just KNOW you're going to love someone just the first time you see them?

'My darlin I, Can't get enough of your love, babe.'

Love is amazing, It's impossible to describe, I just know I'm feeling it now.

Love is both wonderful and awful. It can make you feel like walking on clouds or making you cross the gates of hell. It's sweeter than chocolate but it can hurt you more than being slapped or punched in the face. Its good and evil, light and darkness. You love it, you hate it. It makes your body act funny when in the presence of the beloved person, like heartbeat getting faster, sweating...it can make you tremble and cry.

Without doubt, its the great and the worst feeling on earth.

Remember SJ, It might not be love but the Paladins have always got your back, we're here for you.

Thanks!! *hugs* I might be on the dark side right now, but no one can deny its both sided. When you're dumped or cheated you suffer, suffer because the person you love made you suffer, the love you feel makes you suffer! That's why I think this way.
But thanks for the support, DQ!! (and remember that if you do the same that a certain person did you so will get killed!!) :rolleyes:

Love at first sight, that's how mine was (IS)...

Once again, I really can't explain...

Oh good, I'm not the only person who's experienced it.

SJ, I TOTALLY understand how you feel. I've experienced those two sides in ONE DAY before. The guy I was enamoured with held my emotions on a string, and would either bounce me up, or snip my string at least once a day. Very frustrating, VERY painful.
So, you're not alone

(PS, so nice to see someone's so protective of me! But dun worry, he won't break my heart)

*shrugs* I wouldn't really know the other side...

My ex and I just kinda stopped talking and all...... *shrugs* and after all that time, I really didn't care because I knew he wasn't meant for me...

I never allowed people to play with my emotions or anything like that. If they didn't treat me like the princess I am, then they didn't deserve me, and I'd search for someone better ;)


But once I met my bf, I knew right away...
So awesome!

*sighs* And we will live happilly ever after :D





*GRINS* And good luck to the both of you! *cough cough*
soooooooooo............. when's the wedding? (lol!!! j/k!!!!)

I'm really happy for you Shannon.

*Cough*(that was for you, DQ...)*cough*
All my loves were love at first sight, and I always met both sides...but what doesn't kill me only makes me stronger! B)

how do you know I was being congratulatory over a wedding?
Perhaps it was something else?
There's a couple of important technical things that need done before I can get married.

Yes, like his bolts tightened. If his head were to fall off at the altar...SHEER disgrace!

(I'm sorry! I'm sooooooo hyper right now!)


Anyways, you've heard it time and again, but congrats AGAIN Shannon!
(And congrats on the maybe baby!)

ohhhh my God! Four years ago, I met a guy who completely turned my life around!!! Everything was going so well, we were so happy... then, he started acting differently for a few weeks, became very withdrawn from me and everything. When I finally asked him what was up, he said he had something very important to tell me.
Of course, I told my girlfriends, and we sat up half the night planning what he could tell me. I thought he was gonna ask me to move in with him, they thought marriage. Anyway, I went over to his apartment walking on air, I even remembered thinking about what color I could paint his livingroom/kitchen. And then he dropped a bomb on me by telling me he had been seeing someone else for the past few weeks. I asked who she was, and he said: well, Ben's not a she.
I was so crushed. This boy, who I thought I would marry was telling me flat out that he was gay! I never even saw it coming... I got all upset and he said he never meant to hurt me, but we didn't talk for about a year.
Anyway, my story ends with someone I love dearly, my Alex.

wow...

Oh my gosh!!! I can't believe that! Was he just toying with you or something? That's just sooooooooo wrong......

At least it was for the better though, right?

Like what color kilt you'll wear? *grins*

What baby? There isn't a baby yet! No way! Not before I'm married!

Love is definately a strange thing. It's both simple and complicated. It's simple because it just seems to happen, but complicated because you can't explain it. You just feel it. My love story is very long, and new chapters keep getting added, so i could never really explain it. I'm not sure if you could call my love love at first sight or not, I met my now husband online, but even though we were states away and couldn't see each other, I was drawn to him the first time I talked/wrote to him. Then it grew and matured from there, so I guess all I can tell you is that it can be immediate, but from the point it starts, it'll keep growing if it's true.

That's the truth...

Sometimes it takes people a long time to realize that they're gay. My best friend, who was also my boyfriend for over a year, recently "came out" too.

I wasn't mad at all-- how could I be? He told me that he didn't even realize it until recently. Apparently it took him years to really realize it, and that it wasn't just a phase. (We would hold hands and cuddle, but we never kissed or anything like that-- I always assumed it was because he was shy!).

That was several years ago, though. We still love each other very much. ^_^ He's still my best friend and I'm so happy that he's realized his true self and was able to share it with me.

I'm going to agree with Sarabella, sometimes it's takes people who are gay time to reconsile with their orientation.

Cloudsgirl - I had a similar experience - a girlfirend that I really loved who turned out to be gay. It was extremely painful for me, almost worse that JUST a break-up.


What is love? Wow, tough question. Are we referring exclusively to romantic love, or love in general?

I believe it's romantic love we're talking about.

Love in general, how does it work? How does one person feel something, and the other just happens to feel it back? That was the original question, Buhon.
I recently fell in love again and it got me curious about how it works, how it's POSSIBLE

Ugh, I've liked a guy for almost four years. I even told him once, and then I ran full-speed to the girl's bathroom because I felt so embarassed. I wouldn't have had to tell him either, except that my friend, who is much taller and stronger than me, was going to knock me into him if I didn't. She would have made it so difficult. You always hear that it feels better once you've told them, but IT'S NOT ALWAYS TRUE!! It's much more comfortable for me to stay nice and quiet and make eye contact from across a room. Oh yes.

It's been a couple years since the incident, so hopefully he's either forgotten or doesn't think I like him anymore. I know that a lot of the girls liked him at that point, but it was just because they thought he was hot. He is, but I liked him for other reasons, too. Aparently, he figured it was for the same reason as everyone else ... I will kill my friend!!! (actually we saw a movie last week, so I guess I don't *reallly* hate her ... )

He's the "Cloud" I was talking about in the "'Clouds' and 'Zacks'" threads.

*sigh* :wub:

Being of the philisophical type i used to believe that love was a great friend, or friendly connection that happened to also include a sexual attraction between the two people.

The about 6 months ago i fell in love and threw all those thoughts in the bin. I hate to say it but love is as cliched as all the words describing it, but that doesn't make it any less magical.

Conversation is the key though, if you don't love simply talking to the other person, sitting down for hours on end simply chatting then as far as i'm concerned you're not in love.

Unfortunately the girl destroyed me about a month and a half ago, a long story but i've only just begun recovering from it.

I gotta say it's amazing that even people like me (you know what I mean) can feel so strongly for someone. My body is tingling as I'm writing this.

About 6 months ago I met this girl that I quickly became very close to. I've had about 3 girls that ended out liking me (strange, huh? I wasn't liking it...) and she was on that list too. But she seemed to be different from the others.

About 2 months later, I started getting very nervous around her. I could never say the right thing, I would always sweat, etc. I started sorting out ym feelings; it had been a while since I thought myself over. I started thinking about why this was happening, because I was sitting there clueless.

It took me about 2 weeks to realize that I was actaully attracted (no, that's not a typo) to her. We started becoming even *cough* closer than before, and then we just discovered this connection between us.

I don't know how true these feelings are, but they must be something because she is the only person I can safely say that I would literally die for.


I'll shut up now... *is embarrassed*

HAHA i know exactly what you mean i still hate telling people about these kind of things, it is truly the most embarrassing experience i've ever gone through.

It sounds like you are very attracted to her Cloug, it's good to hear, just be careful, things and people change.

Not always for the worst.

That's true

Wow, so many emoticons... :moogle:

Anyway, yeah, it's true ppl change, and so do feelings...but that doesn't mean you should give up on love and hate the oposite sex..(like I did, if you read my past posts...)

It's being pretty difficult for me to stop being afraid of falling in love..I want to, because I love that feeling, but at the same time I don't want to cause I'm afraid to suffer...

It's so confusing... :/ sometimes I feel like kicking myself!

Love is hard to explain.

I've been in love multiple times. First time, me and my crush were in Kindergarten, me and my crush always played together and we sat next to each other. But when 1st grade came and we were different classes, I forgot his name.

The 2nd time, I liked this boy who went to my grandmother's church, we'd always sneak into some place and kiss. But that was it. A few years later, we were just friends.

But the latest was a little more successful. We met at a gamer chatroom. We talked and talked till he had to log off. But soon we'd always talk to each other whenever we were in the chatroom. I grew to trust him so much that I even told him about my bad past and he helped me when my dog, Saki, had to be put sleep. :huggle:

He was so sweet to me, he was nothing like the guys in my town. Soon we fell for each other.

A few months later, he said that he loved me and I told him the truth. I loved him too. And soon we became an online couple. :huggle:

So I can't say what love is. But I can say that part of love is finding someone who truely cares about you, someone you can trust, someone who will always offer a shoulder to cry on.

Well, I promised myself I would never fall in love online again. Even if I do, I'll act as if I didn't. And even if he says he loves me I'll just keep denying my true feelings, cause I'm sick of loving someone that only exists in my mind. How can you be so sure he's telling the truth? That he's not dating several girls online? And his feelings might not even be real...So, for me, no matter how sweet he seems, he's never truly real until we meet face to face. <_<

*Reads Raist's post about conversation* EXACTLY. Me'n my significant other can literally just sit and talk all day LONG. It's wonderful!
And don't worry SJ, someday your prince will come. You just gotta be patient(I had to wait 4 years all alone, but he was worth it!)

Hehe... I've done that too many times to count.

A lot of people don't believe in online relationships/love. Well, true online love is rare but it DOES exist, and when the love it's real, it's actually really cute. Because then you know that the person can be all loyal, strong and stuff for you. Online relationships are just like long distance relationships, both are really hard to keep, but if you manage through, then you'll be able to touch other people with your story, dunnoe but it does with me.

Nya, I fully agree. I do believe in it because that's how my story is. But Online love isn't for everyone. You have to have trust, and you need to make sure that the other person is trust worthy, and able to trust you in return. If you have trouble trusting others, Online love would be hard. Actually any type of love would be hard, but when you can't see proof, it makes it harder. Also, I don't think you should try to look for love so much as you should only be open to it. It makes it easier to see the person as a whole than if you're trying to fit them into a mold of a lover. Anyway, I'm at work so I'll have to hurry up and end this for now.

well for me...(i might sound silly for saying this)its just like hana said
"when you love someone it could make you feel sad sometimes or sometimes it could make you feel lonely but...it could make you happier than you ever been"
sometimes i think about it and it does sound like she said it >_<