ok, does anyone here feel a un-closeness to any of your parents?
Well, me and my mom have a good bond. We've always have.
but, when it comes to my dad.... its different. When I was little, we had an extremely good bond. I really loved him..... but when Igot older, I just slowly drifted away from him.... I just learned to really dislike him. Just the things he said, did, thought.... they just pissed me off so bad.... I sometimes hated him.
And, as I got older, I lost so much of the attention he used to give me. Because I have a younger sister, she got all that attention that I used to get. I felt like he didnt love me anymore.
I still have a very bad relationship with my dad. At times, I don't think I will ever feel the same about him I did when I was little. I don't even like being around my dad. I just wish he would disappear sometimes.
But, the weird thing is that I don't ever miss him when he's gone. I just don't. I can go a whole week without even looking at him. It may seem pretty heartless, but that just how I feel.
Does anyone else have a rocky relationship with a parent?

I'm real close with both my parents. :D
I used to hang around them, telling them everything, but now, I kinda want my own space. Yeah, they piss me off often too, like they try to bond with me, but it doesn't work. :no:
Maybe it's just the stage of life I'm going through.

When you're a kid, you think they're gods
When you're a teenager, you think they're idiots :P

Not my words, actually. It was on TV, a child therapist quoted that. :lmao:

I've always enjoyed a very close relationship with both my parents. Sure, we don't hug and say "I love you" and all that (maybe it's the asian culture that isn't so open about emotions? :razz: ) but we just know that we love each other and we'll be there in the family.

Well, when I was a teenager I was a bit more distanced from my father, kinda like you in a way, goddess_of_pink, but I didn't hate him. We just talked less, if any at all. That phase is over now though, and now me and my father share a great bond due to my over-active eagerness to help him in the garden whenever I have a chance to go home during the holidays. :lol:

And I spend a lot of time with my mother too, seeing there's no other females she can really talk to in the family, so we often go shopping together, read each other's magazines, stuff like that. She doesn't give me as much motherly advice as I feel I need though, since she's so young herself, but she teaches me how to cook so that's cool. ^_^

I guess when a person is a teenager, you just feel more independant and want to really 'break away' from the cocoon? That's when you feel like your relationship with your parents gets rocky? Aha, but once you've broken away and experienced life on it's own for a bit, you want nothing more than to go back. ;) Been there, done that.

I think we've all felt that way about either one(or both) of our parents at some point. Like Yin-chan has mentioned, sometimes you want to break away from your parents to explore your own independancy. I know I'm in that phase currently, despite having a good relationship with both of my parents.

I have a wonderful relationship with me mother. We kinda have this, 'mother-daughter-best-friend' thing. We go shopping with each other, we're each other's 'fashion consultants'- as she says-, and we tell each other almost anything. We're close, but sometimes I feel like distancing myself from her. My mom doesn't really understand me as much as she really thinks she does and can't understand how I became the way I am, which is almost the opposite of her. This creates a rift between us, sometimes. She tries to push me to be someone I'm not and don't want to be. She doesn't understand that my way of thinking and my opinions are different from hers now. She is also less understanding when it comes to my sensitivities.

My dad, I have an ok relationship. I'm still daddy's little girl... which is both an irritating and good thing. I have the same problem with my father. I hate the thing he says. They either come across as idiotic or racist. If I correct him- he snaps at me. If I tell him he's wrong to think that way- he snaps at me. My mother has said to be that my father has a huge ego and doesn't like to be corrected or to be shown his true intellegence. He also can't understand that I am growing up. He'll still treat me as a child, but I understand that he's just being a dad who doesn't want to let go of his little princess. But yes, it is irritating and I feel smother by it.

About your problems, goddess_in_pink07. I think it's best if you talked to your father about it. Settle things between you two. You may not appreciate your father now, but in the future, he'll be one of the most important people in you life, if not already.

Appreciate your parents while you have them in your life. Because one day, they won't be there... :(

-nods- I've been kinda experiancing something similar myself lately. See, with the current arrangements of my family, while my parents still love each other very much, and are NOT divorced, my families seperated because we were planning on moving, though my dad had to stay where we used to live for a while to finish up his job, my mom took me and my brother with her, however, the schools there were not great, so now, me and my brother came back to live with dad to finish the school year.

I dont see my mom as often as I used to, while I have gotten a closer relationship with my dad. The scary thing is, I feel like im slipping from mom, and I dont miss her all that much. Sure, us both being girls, there are things that I talk to only her about, but I feel like my dad understands me more, and realizes more then my mom that im growing up...

Its very confusing, and its weird, but I think once my familys back together, it will all heal.

I'm not close to either parent, really. My mom is too immature and my dad was abusive. I've forgiven my dad because he knows he was wrong and has apologized, but any more than that, there's really not much there. I basically have mother and father figures in my life, but no parents. It could be worse.

I'm not close to my mom or dad. We argue a lot and my dad doesn't have any emotions at all. My mom thinks I stick around just to get to her money. Well,thats what she says when she's angry. If my dad gets really upset he might threaten me about kicking me out.

lol, at first I thought this meant physical distance, but I have expirienced both emotional and physical distance. It's funny, I see a lot of my own life in what some of you have said, particularly your relationship with your mom R_E.

When I was younger, I was very close to both of my parents, but more of a daddy's girl. However, after my younger brother started getting older, I really started feeling like he was now the favorite, afterall, he was the baby and since I was "older" I should know better. (How many older siblings have heard that line? >_<) There were always problems, but I wasn't really that aware to it all until I got older.

Then my dad and I really had a distance between us, I was bitter that I felt neglected as he would never show up to any of my plays or soccer games and such, while he would go to every game my brother had. But when I got even older it got worse, and I started learning more of the problems of my family. My dad seemed to only pay attention to me when he was yelling, and he would yell for hours, even in front of my friends.

I don't want to really tell all of what was going on, so I'll leave it at that for my dad. I will also choose to be hazy about details with my mom.

Anyway, my mom was the affection giver, and because of that we were very close. The main problems my mom and I had early on was her need to tell me I was fat and put me on diets, and the fact that she started always telling me the family problems and having me try to help her to fix them.

When I was older, my mom started working at the high school where I ended up going, and that really caused problems, more than she will ever realize. She had a habbit of stealing my friends and pushing me in the shadows, to the point some friends started talking to her more than me. Sometimes never me. Plus she was determined to have me be a part of the group she thought was right for me, while I was more interested in more meaningful friendships, not being with the right group. There is more that I shall leave in mystery.

After my parents divorced while I was already dealing with a traumatic expirience, my relationships with them deteriorated further. The worst nail in the coffin in my relationship with my dad was me having to choose which parent I lived with. I knew my mom needed me, so I had to pick her, but my dad wasn't happy. Then all hell broke loose. I'll just say that my mom stopped acting like a mom for a long time, and put me through hell and only used me for money and as someone to talk abnout things I didn't want to hear.

Things got a little better, but were very bad for a long time. Why did I tell yall so much? So I can get to my next point. When I was 17, and about to graduate high school, I finally had an option to get away from it all. I could move to California with my boyfriend of several years who lived there already. I was nervous at first, afterall, moving out is a big step. I started casually bringing it up to my parents. My mom was very against it. However, my dad understood why I wanted to, and supported it. He said that he understood how I couldn't grow if I stayed with my mom trying to protect her. Eventually I made up my mind that I had to do it, and my mom started accepting it by keeping the hope it would be temporary. The last two weeks before I left were crazy. The first week was my graduation, and then I had to pack my things.

Those last two weeks also brought me one of the best and most important days of my life. My dad and I took a whole day just for us, and it was incredible. We talked and had so much fun, and we both took time to see that it was true what everyone said, we were just alike, but it didn't have to be a bad thing. One of the crowning moments was going on this incredible ride, we both were the thrill seekers who loved fast rides, while my brother and mom hated them, so it just fit, and we still talk about that ride even now, three years later.

Eventually, the time came that I left, and it was difficult for me. I now had really gotten a great relationship with my dad, and I would miss them all greatly. But I had to do it. And after I left, eventually my mom started improving her life again. Now I have great relationships with them both, and I am always looking forward to visiting them. So I told you all of this to say that even when things are really bad, things can change if you try. I wont say things are perfect in my family, but they are a lot better. Plus now that I'm not living there, I can help from the outside more, and I appreciate the time together so much more.

Now I don't think everyone should just move away, lol, but the point is, you have to learn to appreciate what you do have, and always leave the door open to changing things. (talks like she's 80 years old instead of 20) :lol: But yeah, I hope that this helps one of you, or else I'm going to be embarrassed for going on and on!

I've always been close to my parents, but I am more like my mom. :)

Y'see, she's totally for meeting people on the internet. She herself met a lot of friends through the internet, and has gone places with them, met up with them, etc. (PARTAY AT MY HOUSE, Y'ALL! :lmao: Just kidding. She's 38; I'm 13; I don't think I'll be inviting internet buddies over....While SHE can. xD LIFE ISN'T FAIR! Of course, she's been talking to them since I was in fourth grade...So...Four years. xD I really would like to meet you all in person, though....We could storm my school wearing Cleristhz Nazi uniforms! D:) My dad is much more strict and stuff. but my STEPMOM is off-teh-handle-everyone-on-the-internet-is-a-sexual-predator. xD So...yeah. My mom is the one I show all my AMVs and internet friends to. xD I shall hafta introduce y'all sometime! My dad and stepmom dunno about my intarwebz friends...So...Shhhhh. xD And my mom acts, writes stories, poetry, watches Advent Children with me...Is messier than me, and stuff. I kinda hold the fort at my mom's house, because she is slightly lacking in the parenting department (a cup o' noodle, crazy, fun-lovin' not mothering typa person. The kind your friends like and stuff....Wait, no...Uhh...She's hard to describe. xD) So, my mom is like me, so we argue a lot - we are both as stubborn as mules. And I'm taller than her by a couple of inches. And I look exactly like her. And...Yeah.

So, I'm closer to my mom than to my dad and stepmom; but I'm close to them all.

Sometimes, though, I wanna throw my duffel bag of manga at my parents. xD

I think every teenage girl is like that, cause I was a total Daddy's girl and now, if you put me and my dad in a room together..WILL KILL EACH OTHER! Seriously, I get along with my mom, but we have our rounds as well. :ermm:

When I was in my teens, I had a really turbulent relationship with both my parents. I always felt like they were picking at every little thing I did, and sometimes we couldn't even be in the same room without me taking something the wrong way and starting up an argument, or vice versa. Because I'm a stubborn type, I always have to get the last word in arguments, so I'd never back down, even when I knew that I'd gone too far. Sometimes during arguments with my mother, I'd call her stupid, or swear at her, and if my language was really bad, she'd lose her temper and try to hit me. She wasn't abusive, I deserved a smack with some of the things I said to her. Most of the time though, I'd make sure I was at a safe distance before screaming swear words at her, (not tame ones either, always the four letter ones) and if she came running to hit me, I'd sprint upstairs into my bedroom and lock the door. I was a horrible, horrible teenager. At the time, I was probably suffering from depression as well as going through puberty (I was diagnosed with clinical depression about a year after I left school), but I wouldn't admit to myself that I had any problems, and I definitely wouldn't admit that I might have needed help from my parents. When you're a teenager, you sometimes feel like your parents can't possibly understand you or have anything in common with you, because you don't see them as your equal, you still see them as the people who're stopping you from doing the things you want to do, or trying to tell you what to do when they have no right.

But you know, once I left school and got a job, my view of them changed, and I changed, partly because of the independence that my job gave me. I wasn't as moody, I was more self-confident, and things got a lot better. Now me and my parents hardly argue at all, and when we do argue, it's about silly little things like who gets to watch what on television or whose turn it is to make a cup of tea. My mother and I go shopping, and watch CSI and House together, and my dad and I have little in-jokes about silly things like the clairvoyant shows my mother likes to watch. So what I'm trying to say, with this big long ramble is, as Taco said, things do change for the better. Eventually. ;)

I have a great relationship with my parents. Sure, we argue a lot, but we've all said that we'd be scared of any family that never argued.(I would, that's freaky... :lol:) Anyway, my mom and I bond all the time, I talk to her about the most random things, watch T.V. with her, she does my nails...It's all good. My dad, I am A HUGE Daddy's Girl. Not a bad thing, though. Again, I argue with both of them every once in a while, but we always make up. Kinda like that one time when me, my mom, my dad and my brother were all getting pissed at each other and stormed off, then literally 5 minutes later walked into the kitchen and went:
"...What the hell was that?"
"...Um..I dunno."
"Yeah that was...Uh...weird."
"*Blink*"
Then we all went and bonded over Mario Party and Mortal Kombat. :-). My family is SUPER CLOSE, so whenever we fight, there's never a doubt in my mind that well make up. Good deal, huh?

Yeah, I don't have such a great relationship with my dad either. I mean, we both love each other, but we've lived apart for pretty much my entire life... Im in FL, hes in NY, I see him two to three times a year. I respect him to a degree, and recognize that hes done good things for me. But that still doesn't cancel out the fact that hes a royal pain in the ass.

I love my parents dearly, but I can't say I have much of a relationship with either of them (of course, I always keep a distance between myself and someone else--it's just the way I am).

They are wonderful parents and I wouldn't change them for anything in the world (well, maybe my dad's eating habits--he has high blood pressure and he keeps eating ramen! grr...).

I suppose I'm close with my parents.

We fight ALOT but thats usually because if my sarcastic attitude and laziness. So I basically know when we fight it's my fault. =) I listen to thier adivce all the time but I make it seem like I'm not listening at all. Lol. I'm such a bad son. >=)

Oh but if/when I have a child I know for sure if it's a boy he'll love me to death... but if it's a girl she's going to hate me for eternity. I'm so gonna kick any boy's ass if I know she's going out with someone... No one's gonna touch my little girl until she moves out... and even then I'll have the "You break her heart, I break your face... and legs, and arms, and spine, and collar bone, and ribs, and hands, and fingers" attitude.

Oh, she's going to hate me with a passion.

I've never been all that close to my parents. Other than when I was really little anyway, since I am the youngest of four siblings. But since I moved out and to a different country, they seem to want to be "closer" to me now which is a refreshing change. ^_^

That's somewhat similar to me and my dad-- he's been working in another country for nearly a year now. I felt kinda bad at first that we were functioning fine without him back home, as if us not falling apart at his absence was a sign that we didn't love him. While my dad's relationship with us isn't always lovey, we're not all drama and rockiness either.

I guess we're just a normal family. Although we're not very, ah... well, let's just say I was surprised when my friend's parents actually bother to celebrate Valentine's Day and birthdays. :lol: Being in their mid-50s, I think my parents are just too old to care anymore, and V Day's just another day to them. And not one of us likes to celebrate birthdays; the detest must be in our genes.

Anyway, back to dad-- he does come back every couple of months, though. Add to that the convenience of technology-- email, handphones-- and maybe that's why I don't miss him. I can contact him pretty much 24/7.

Since my dad moved to Oman and I moved to Singapore for uni, he sometimes sends me "Your parents are v proud of you" text messages for no reason. And I'd be all, "Er... what am I supposed to do with this?" (to myself) or "Waaah, your handphone bill's gonna shoot up with all these messages!" (to him)

Yeah, I'm terrible. :sweat:

I'm not really distant from my parents. I have a pretty good relationship with my dad especially. We have all the same favorite shows, so we watch those together when they come on (except The Daily Show and The Colbert Report... he doesn't care for fake news).

My mom and I aren't really that close. We fight a lot, and she annoys the shit out of me more than half of the time. We don't have the same tastes in anything, she's rude, her ego is huge, and she tells me I'm worthless half of the time. She's not a very good parent, but she's a good mother (if that made sense). I know that she loves me with all of her heart, and she'd sacrifice everything for my happiness despite the way she acts and the things she says.

Both my parents are very supportive in my endeavors though. No way in hell that I would show them anything I've ever written, but I know that they would help me in anyway possibile if I did. If I get accepted to NYU, my dad promised that he would do everything in his power to get the money to send me there. When I thought that attending a protest against Bush in Manhattan was more important than school, they both allowed me to cut school that day to attend.

In short, the only distance I feel from my parents is the overwhelming annoyance my mother causes me on a daily basis.

I"m not really close to my parents. i used to be but now i'm not really. I think it's just a vaze :aeris:

Seriously now, I have a strong disliking for my father. I've honestly given up all hope in wanting to look to him as a farther figure. I hate everything about him. Maybe its just the teenager in me talking, but if I had the choice I'd never see my father again.

He criticizes the way I dress. My make up. My jewlery. How I talk. And frankly, I'm tired of it. I don't think I'm acting inappropriate at all. I like to be different from people, yet he ceases to see that. He tells me I want to be like everyone else, and that's not true.

I'm not out to please him. I never have. He has this mind set that I'm a naive, rebellious girl who knows no better. He think's I lie to him none stop, and I can't be trusted.

I just don't care anymore.

same here i havent seen my father since i was 3 well kinda never even saw him really. so me and my mom are very close. i hope i do see him one day though.
i have some advice for him in the form of a bat.

Bleh, but my dad... lol talking wouldn't work. xD He's too damn stubborn and prideful to open his damn ear's and listen.
My parents are extremely religious people. Which, I hate. If I did tell him anything, he'd think I'm following by the world's standard's and that is quote on quote "evil" to him.
My dad is hypocritical. He contradict's himself so much, it just bug's the living crap out of me. He loves to tell me what I'm doing wrong. Yet, he's made so many mistakes that he refuses to see.

I don't even like being alone with dad for more than an hour. He makes me feel nervous and uneasy. His prescence is just horrific to me. xD

A lot of people go through that. I have an odd relationship with my dad. My siblings and I all feel it is like a battle for his love. He's very harsh and demanding so it makes it tough. And now I've been noticing more of my mother's bad side. It's kind of irritating.

Lawlz, it looks like everyone hates their parents. ~killz the angst-fest~

I enjoy my parents a lot, even though of course there are things I don't like, and of course we disagree at times; that's life. I'm really grateful of them though, and most of the things they do that annoy me are out of my best interest. In fact, I don't think I even went through that phase of 'I HAET MAI PARENTZ ~IS A TEEN~', well, nvm, actually, I did, but only for one year, then I think I figured things out and knew better. So yeah! I really like my parents; they're the reason I'm alive, they raised me, they looked out for me, they gave me shelter, and foodz :woot:

^_^

I agree with Rikku here.

I have a wonderful relationship with both of my parents. We have never argued and we always show that we care for one another. They know I appareciate everything they do, and they appreciate everything I do. We even agree on most things and share the same tastes. I've never felt dislike towards them either...I think I'm pretty lucky to have such a good relationship with them.

:lol: I'm not angsting! I know it's all a teen thing. I am sure that when I'm an adult my deal with my parents will be prefectly fine!

:cheer: :fangirl:

That's awesome to hear! Yus, very lucky. I swear, I rarely hear people talk all good of their parents. Whenever I talk to my friends about parents, all I hear are complaints! xDD

THEN Y DOEZ UR TITLE THINGY SAY 'EMO: /WRISTS' !?!?!? I HAS PROOF. ~SHOWS YOU THEMS~ :lmao: srsly, though, am kidding.

xD It's good to hear that you think that, and not 'I WEEL HAET THEM 4EVAH ~writes poetry~'. I think it's normal to start noticing your parent's (well, anyone's) bad points after you've known them for a longer time, but in the end, no one is perfect. When I started to think about it, my parents were only looking out for me most of the time, like I would if I was a parent. Try to think about it in their position (and I'm saying this to everyone who talked about issuez). I bet it's really hard to be a parent, I'm sure it gets stressful sometimes, and besides, maybe it's hard for them to remember what it was like to be young! Or maybe they DO remember what it was like to be young, and they had bad experiences, and don't want yours to be the same!

Of course not ALL parents are WONDERFUL human beings, and always looking out for their children, but just try to at least understand why they act the way they do. Btw, ah em here for therapy whenever j00 guys need it, but beware, ah charge. :devil:

I'm close to my parents and always have been. However I feel it's worth mentioning that my unlce used to come over to our house all the time and we were pretty close, a year years after I moved away, I heard he died. I don't belive I've ever actually missed him or felt bad about that, and when I think about it, it kinda bugs me.

XD The thing on my member title is really a play on something you do in FFXI to perform an action. Cute, eh?

In all honesty, my relationship with them is good. Better than most. I mean I converse with them daily about stuff just at times papa seems a little harsh. It's probably just the teenage mentality. :lol:

I'm really close to my Mum but my Dad left when i was 7 and i didn't see him for like Years but recently we kinda got back in contact. I've seen him a couple of times but all he ever does is just puts me down. To him everything i do is wrong. Like i applied for college to do a Games Development course and he said that was a ridiculous idea and i was being stupid and unless i was doing Law, Medicine or Engineering there was no point in me going to college at all. Also i quit my job a couple of weeks ago and i didn't tell my Dad because i know he would moan at me and as usual make me feel like a child, so lately i've been hating him and everything about him just really gets to me now.

I've always been real close with my mom through growing up... though I'm sure it is because I've lived with her throughout my whole life, but a lot of it also goes to the fact that we are a lot alike. We've never really had any problems to speak of.... As for my dad, yeah, I feel like we are growing apart... the older I get, the more I realize that we aren't the same... Though I will always love my dad and look up to him, there are just some things that he says that I don't agree with all too well, and there are things I've said that he doesn't agree with either... But we've never gotten into fights or anything, or have had any major disagreements. But it just seems like we don't connect as much as we used to when I was a little kid.

Well, as I was growing up, I felt VERY close to my mom, and I had to tell her EVERYTHING. I think that I was a bit TOO close, actually. However, my mom and dad have been in a bad realationship since I was born, and each of them would get *very* angry if I showed affection to either one. This really tore me up inside, because it wasn't really my fault, and I loved both of them.

There's a lot of other problems in the family that my parents don't want me to know about, but I know them anyway. I know that every family has those kinds of things, but mine are just totally @#$%ed up.

Now, I'm completely distanced from both of them, and I feel better about it. The person that I can count on will always be my big brother; he's always been there for me, and knows everything about the family, and is not a liar.

My parents aren't bad, (Okay, maybe they are very screwed up :P ), but they just aren't healthy to be around. It's best to stay out of the house and hang with my brother, or my best freind most of the time.

I'm not really sure on what to say about my parents.

Most of the time, I'm away at the university and seldom come home because of what happened after my first year. I was always disappearing especially when my groupmates needed me, as my parents expect me to be back home every week.

But ever since my mom had gotten high class jobs and my dad kinda stopped working, I could feel the distance between us. Especially now that I'm two years away from graduation.

I'm not sure how to get close to them and if i try, being the one with the youngest mind compared to my younger siblings, they tell me grow up. Other than that, they say I've become more moody and I get scolded alot for things like... not having any logic in my head or not wearing accessories like earrings or make up.

It's driving me nuts till i can't say I love them from my heart :sad: