ok, i hear alot of people say that long distance relationships don't last.... they just can't work because you can't love someone if you've never met them.
But, others say they do.
I think that with enough trust and love, it can work out. If you really devote yourself to someone, it does work. I would say that i'm in a LD relationship..... and i love him so much.... i would do anything to meet him. :( I really do love him....
What do you all think? Your opinions are appreciated! :gift: (hopefully this hasn't been posted already...) :

I thought I saw a thread like this, but I never added anything so may as well now :P

I think they're perfectly fine. I'm not a fan of dating sites, I think it has to be natural for it to work. If you talk to someone (say, on a forum) a lot, you could become very attached and protective over that person. I've saw them work and I've saw them not work, it's basically the same as any offline relationship then.

I say go for these things, but make sure you know the person well enough before you confess. That's the main disadvantage online, you don't know if you're speaking to the person you think you are...

But there are always ways to clarify: webcams, microphones etc.

So yes, I say go for it if you have the chance because in my opinion they are just as real as offline.

yeah... about the confessing.... we already kinda poured our guts of to eachother..... :D...lol! :lmao: He's a member of this site, and i met him on this site. I've known him for about 4 months....
But, we've already told eachother how we feel about one another..... :heart: We talk to eachother over the phone, so we know eachother pretty well. But, thanks for your opinion. :gift:

I'm in a LD relationship for seven years now which can be extremely crap at times but it works, nevertheless.

You need a lot a lot and I mean a lot of trust, because there are times when you won't be in contact for weeks on end, and obviously you have no idea what's going on with the other side and blah, so yes. Trust is important. And I can't stress communication enough. Since it's a long distance relationship, it's incredibly easy to drift apart, even if you have everything in common right down to the number of zits on your face. So make the time to communicate every once in a while, even if only in short messages. :) You have to be open with each other.

So yes, IMO LD relationships can work, and can be very fulfilling too - just as long as there's plenty of devotion (pun not intended!) and that each side puts in as much effort as the other to make it work.

I'd say they've just about as much chance as any other relationship. After all, even if you were local and dating, they could still be hiding information or lying to you about certain things. You just need to be smart about it.

Yeah, it does last. My boyfriend is studying in Japan, then comes back in South Korea during his semester breaks and summer n winter vacation. we've started since i wa 14, lol i love him, and i miss him very much, so, it is not easy for having LD 'ships, some of my friends plus my sister thinks he's having another gf in her life, but i trust him, when he came back this winter break i told him i'll break up.

Yeah, i did, but i was only testing him on how will he react if i'll break up. and lol guess what happened?! He followed me everywhere, and when the night fell, my dad told me i had a lot of missed calls from the phone :blush:
The following day he went in our house, without my permission, and he was crying :sad: then i told himi was only joking about the 'break-up'...

omg i miss him... :sad: :cry: i gotta call him!!!

OMG!
I'm just dying to know who he is! :woot:
I think it can work, as long as your feelings are true, you won't have any problems :D

Well, if you really want to know.... his user name is Bremic on this site! (just look at my avatar and sig....)
He's the greatest guy ever! I just love him to death and back! He doesn't talk much on the phone, but thats what makes him soo cute!
I really appreciate this site for meeting him... if i never did join here, i never would of got to find out what a super-fantastic guy he is!!
It just pisses me off really bad when people say "LD relationships are not real. You cant love someone you've never met" Well you know what? Screw you! :moon:
I think LD relationships can work if you really want them to work.

:D :D :D :D :D

Ah... I love her, I really do. And I know she feels the same way about me, right?

Yeah, I think LD relationships can work. If you really want them to that is. And I REALLY want it to. I've never met anyone like goddess before... Shes just so awesome!

Oh, hey, what happened to your Aeris avatar? That was cool!

I think it completely depends on what kind of LD relationship it is.

If you've never (or maybe met a couple times) met the person before in your life, it would be alot easier than if you've been with that person and had to leave. The difference is that a LD relationship with someone you havent met won't really alter your life outside of the phone and computer. Now if you've always been with someone IRL and then suddenly switch to the phone and computer... This can be hard. You're so used to being with that person and suddenly you just aren't. This kind of relationship is a diffucult thing to undertake.

So I'm saying that if you've never met the person, it would be ALOT easier. If anyone is in a long distance relationship with someone, don't go thinking your love is uber special just because it's long distance and you care for each other. For those who have been with someone in real life for a long time, are far apart from each other now and are still together; be proud and know that you are one of only a handful of couples that actually made it work. "I" would believe your love is truly genuine.

Ah... I love her, I really do. And I know she feels the same way about me, right?

Yeah, I think LD relationships can work. If you really want them to that is. And I REALLY want it to. I've never met anyone like goddess before... Shes just so awesome!

Oh, hey, what happened to your Aeris avatar? That was cool![/QUOTE]

Awww, thanks so much! :huggle: :huggle: I love you so much...
Don't you like my Jessica one? I'll put my Aeris one up for a little while longer. But, don't count on it being changed! :D

Thats what I was going to say basically. Its all about commitment. You can really be too sure if a long distance relationship will work unlesss if both you and your partner are willing to put a lot of effort into the relationship :gift:.


Personally, I cant be in a LD because I lose trust. Just like yin-chan said, you wont be in contact with your partner for awhle and you never know what goes on the other side.

And thats the one thing Im afraid of in an LD. Because I dont want to find out about something my partner did when I was away and then ending up pissed or heartbroken. If I was ever in a moment when Im just about to go into a long-distance relationship, I would just end it right then and there.

Yes, true. he/she could be not telling you everything and could really break your heart....
but that depends on the person you've started the relationship with. How they act, their nature, personality... that stuff.

Carmen, i'm sure if you looked, their would be someone that you could trust... i just know it. Theirs always that special someone out their for everyone.

I know that "he" wouldn't ever betray me... i can tell just by his personality.

It all depends on the girl or guy you choose...

I think LD relationships are a bunch of BS. You cannot love someone if you've never met, and or seen them.
Its just doesn't work. :no: I'm sorry for everyone who believes they can. :unsure:
Thats just my opinion.

I don't think it could work. I don't think you'd feel the joy and satisfaction from a real life relationship with one with person you don't really know. It's odd though because I met the guy I date now from playing Halo online but he goes to my school, is friends with my brother, and lives right down the block from me.

It all depends on the people invovled. I was in an LD for 9 months and it was HARD. I'm very big on touching, and so never being able to snuggle my boyfriend was killer. I have to admit, I'm much happier now dating someone who's HERE. LD's are extremly hard, but they can be worth it. It all just depends on you.

Well, i think they last. They can work too. I've seen them crash and burn burn burn, and i've seen them work great like cherries and whipcream. Lol, i believe they work out great. :)