Ok I just hope I put this in the right topic dinngy lol >> , I was thinking since this is a site about the Love between Aeris and Cloud, Maybe it would be cool for people to talk about their first love or crush even wich ever or talk about what you think would make a good relationship to be in. I can honestly say I've never been in love with anyone before, I've had lots of crushs in life but never really been in love. Put sometimes its nice to think about having someone to be with that loves you as much as well Cloud loves Aeris I guess would be the best way to express it here. So feel free to talk about your views about this.
(BTW If this is in the worng topic or is a topic already Im sorry )
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I've only been in love once. I'm not any more, but I was, I think. I miss that feeling sometimes, but I don't miss how much he could hurt me. ^_^ I'd really like to fall in love again someday though, to wake up and think of him, and think of him before I go to sleep at night, to spend time with him and do and say silly things that I know he won't think I'm weird for saying or doing, but that he'll find cute. That would be nice. I'd welcome that again.

wow someone answerd lol ^_^, I totaly agree it would be nice to have that feeling of being in love with someone and spending time with them even when you do something and most people find strange he wouldnt think any lesser of you lol that would be a good feeling ^_^

I completely agree, Madame Batolli. Though I'm not welcoming another relationship at the time. He'd have to be a really good guy for me to want to start another relationship.

Yes I've been in love. And I still am in love. And no matter how silly it may seem to some of you, I'm in love with Yazoo from AC. My heart is overcome with love for him, ^_^. I know that if....Cloud and aeris really felt like this before death....death would never hurt it. Just make it stronger.

I've only been in love once. And he moved away, but I still love him, and I'm still his girlfriend. The long-distance thing is so much harder than a lot of people seem to think. They just don't understand.

And he moved away, but I still love him, and I'm still his girlfriend. The long-distance thing is so much harder than a lot of people seem to think. They just don't understand.

Tell me about it. It's been almost a year since I met my first love. She lived, quite literally, a continent away. It's so hard not being able to see the person talking to you while you long to be next to them.

It's a magnificent feeling while it lasts, but also utter torment when it ends.

:( I understand your pain.

The love of my life lives oceans away from me - and I've never been able to meet him, not even once in my entire life. But it's amazing in the sense that - when two people are truly in love - it doesn't matter how far apart you are, how different your lives are, it doesn't matter how long you have to wait - you can feel that he/she is with you in a way, sometimes you can feel his/her heart beating within you, it's that sort of feeling that's just like - a miracle. And you know that you can trust your partner completely, and feel calm and secure at the same time, no matter the distance, because your hearts are calling out to each other.

It's quite amazing, the boundaries love can transcend. Hang in there, if the love is strong, someday you'll get to your happiness. :huggle:

/sappiness :hide:

I was in love once, a long distance love though. I was only youngish when it started, so i probably didnt always handle it well, didnt know how. It last for quite a while, about 3 years but we was too young to meet, grew apart in the end. I'd like to love someone again, well part of me wants that, the other doesnt want to get close to anyone anytime soon. Love brings out the worse in me sometimes, its great while it lasts but when it ends I dont deal with it like it should be done. I consider myself lucky to have of not met my first love now, after hearing about him from friends he's turned into a physco, lucky escape.

"after hearing about him from friends he's turned into a physco, lucky escape. "
Oh wow yeah it is lucky you broke up before he went all Physco, sometimes its good to let the people you love go, but other times it seems impossible. :huggle:

I've never been in love. Though I've had many crushes and so on, but still I think none on them was right for me and that's why I kept my mouth shut and didn't say anything.

I truly miss love and want love...I'm so romantic a person but I want to be treated well...many boys just want sex or have "fun" (drink..) but I want to have a serious relationship and see a future with that guy. I think there's one for me out there and I'll meet him someday :) There must be a reason for all of this 'cause all the boys who have liked and two of them have loved me, I haven't loved them back. In my country boys can be quite stupid and that's why it's even more difficult to find a suitable person.
*Sigh* But I haven't lost my hope for happiness..he is there..maybe I already know him :)

I compleatly agree with you *Aeris* lol it is hard to find someone who will feel that way about you and want the same things you do,But I also still have faith in finding that one person you were ment to be with,Sometimes I make love sound like more then it really is like when someone tells someone else they love them I dont think it should be like five days after dating and such, love doesn't appear like that not real love anyway..I think it takes time to fall in love with someone to truly be in love with them. But I agree with you and Im sure you will find someone who will treat you wonderful ^_^ :huggle:

I'd better have been in love, I'm married! :lol:

Mine was also a long distance love, I met my husband online, and he lived in Southern Cali, while I lived in Portland, Oregon. We eventually met when my mom and I went to see him for Spring Break, I was only 14 then.

There were rough spots, mainly because he was so jealous, but there's something strong between us that keeps us in love even when things aren't perfect.

When you're in love, it's like being a kid and an adult at once. It's intense at times, and others, it's carefree. I love the carefree times, when we can laugh together, play wrestle, watch a funny movie, play video games... I also love the intense parts with deep talks, romantic dinners, being held close, and, dare I say it, making love.

I will admit it can be quite painful sometimes, he isn't always the most sensitive, and it hurts, but when we are happy, the little fights, and even the big ones, just don't seem to matter.

:o omg! your married I would never have thought that lol ^_^ thats so awsome and you make it sound so amazing like now I want to run out and find someone and get married XD lol kidding kidding >> lol but it sounds great and you seem very happy. I hope nothing but the best for you ^_^ :huggle:

^_^ Thanks! I married young, I'm 19, and got married a lil over 10 months ago.

It can be pretty tough, but I am happy! You definately have to prepared to not be selfish, and you learn that you can't hold grudges. Once you're ready, it is a great thing though!

Hmmm...well, depends on what kind of love.
I'm a very romantic person(you could say I'm in love with love!), and have pretty much always got a thing for someone, but I can say I've truly loved each and every one. Just because you stop loving one, doesn't mean the emotion wasn't really there.
And about long distance relationships: THEY. SUCK. I just finished a 10 month long one. We lived an ocean and a continent apart, and while the relationship was deep and close, I'm a very physical person and it's terribly painful to not be beside the one you love. I thought it could be okay and I wouldn't mind, that it was the words in a relationship that matter, and I was wrong. It was too hard, and I couldn't do it. So kudos to those who do!
I have to admit though, I'm much happier and it's much funner to walk around school hand in hand with my boyfriend

I can understand that its hard being with someone who isnt there all the time ,and I dont think I could do that eather its so much better to have the person you love with you by your side where you know they will always be if you need them. :cleris:

I've never been in love, nothing even close. A few crushes, I guess, but I didn't let them know anyhow. It's not bad; I'm too young to be thinking about love seriously anyway. I'm sure it'll come at the right time.

All I hade was a few crushes too nor did I say anything, I kinda would like to fall in love, but then again, love can break you, so I think you're better off without it...XD

Wow, it's interesting to see a lot of you are/were in long-distance relationships. I was in one (2 hours away, but that's far enough), and it was hard to manage with seeing each other.

I think even if you have a crush its probly better to tell them how you feel for some peopel anyway then you'd have no regrets and you wouldnt have to wonder what if?, if I ever get a crush I always tell the person that I have one on them because letting them know how I feel even if they dont feel the same way is enough for me, then they will know and I wouldnt have to wonder if I had told them what would happen, I also have to keep in mind that a crush is much diffrent then love and I make sure to tell them that its just a crush its not like Im in love with them. :cleris:

Aaaaaahahahaha.

For me, feeling love and infatuation is nothing different. So I could say that I've been in love for... how many times already? Too many to count. :P

However, what makes love different from infatuation? Well, I think it's commitment and perhaps more knowledge, more interaction with the other person. In that sense you could say that I've never been in love before.

Hearing that some of you have been in the same situation as me makes me feel a ton better! Thank you so much!

Wow, and I thought my love story was sad. Reading all of yours just made me feel a soft spot...no I'm not crying! *sniff* :hide:

I was in love...I mean, I thought I was. I met this guy, At first I didn't really care about boys at that time, but he was special. I mean, I'm really addicted to Final Fantasy and a bunch of other stuff, and it was really cool that I met someone that I could talk to (Because my friends liked FF too, but they wern't as obsessed as me) about what I like. Then, I started liking him. How couldn't I? It was really cool talking to someone like him so often and openly.

But my friend (who I called a twin, because we were that close) lied to me and said she didn't like him, but she did. She could never admit that she's trying to take him away from me, but I know she is. She's showing off to me and trying to prove that she has a better relationship with him than my relationship with him, saying things like "He calls and texts me" or "We have a song" or giving each other nicknames like Panda Bear and Teddy Bear. In all honesty, he told me he never liked the mushy stuff.

She even tries to show me that she knows more about him. She got mad at me once because she was telling me what school he was gonna transfer to :lmao: So now, I don't trust her anymore, I'm a very tormented child (I won't go into detail) and she's destroying my one and only chance of (what I think is) my happiness. I want to be with him so bad but she's taking him away from me, and thats what hurts me the most. He liked me back, and ever since she found out she's been going all crazy spending all this time with him and less with me.

So, I'm not very sure If I am in love, or I never was.

Yes, I am. And yes, it's long distance (7+ hour drive away), but it's all good. ^^

I've been in love before so many times... :cray: each time I've been turned down or laughed at. Sometimes it never goes deeper, it doesn't go to my heart, and sometimes it's physical attraction. ^_^ I'm attracted to a particular guy at the moment, I'm crazy about him, but I don't know him enough to make sure if it's real love or not. His name at the moment is the password for logging in to my account!! :lmao: But I think that's just obsessiveness. I'm not sure if I'm in love, but I know that I'll meet my perfect man one day. ^_^

To Paladin's H, that's really rough. She sounds like she's not a very good friend after all, she's obviously a jealous type, and you deserve a friend who will be happy for you. I'm not saying to be enemies, but take the time to find some other friends who respect your feelings more. I hope things work out for you so that you're happy!

*beats up those who laughed at AerithR* :guns: AerithR's too nice to, but I'm not! *huggles AerithR* I know you'll find the man for you! You're such a good person that I know good things will happen for you.

You don't know how much harder it got... :cry:

*Huggles, Paladin-H and Taco*

The whole long-distance relationship thing is really tough. My cousin is going through it too. So she and I bond over that. But some people don't understand how hard it is to do something like that! It's hard when you're used to getting e-mail from him everyday, and then one day your box is empty! I mean, sure, he was probably busy then, but in your mind, you're like, What is he doing?

As far as i've analyzed my feelings... i've never been in love with a real girl when compared to my feelings concerning this sort of utopia named Aeris...
I think that until a girl proves me she can offers me more than this simple "image" (i'm french, so i mean "image" with the meaning of fantasm, unreal, etc), until then, i will go on dreaming... and i can feel happy everyday with that state of mind.
When i feel bad, I just have to think about Aeris' adventures and I realize that my life is so boring, so useless... I escape this world in my mind...
So sad :unsure:
Hee of course i've had a girlfriend during some months... didn't understand why she droped me... and finally I don't care... reality is hard to face when your whole youth was full of beautiful histories like FF7...
Oh yes... girls are sooooo far from Aeris personnality today... that I feel each day a little more despaired... and disappointed...
If any girl reads this... try to convince me that somewhere in this world lie girls like Aeris :)
Thx

My new nickname is Sora... as this little guy can meat her :blush:

Not all girls are like that, Thommas. :huggle:

I've never even had a boyfriend before, and I'm 15, I guess it's cuz guys aren't attracted to a Christian personality, not I'm attracted to non-Christians. I'm waiting for my perfect guy, and I will keep my Abstinence til marriage. The Ultimate Gift to your partner is yourself. How can you give yourself when you've given it to someone else? If you do it enough times, you'll have nothing left. That's my impression anyway. ^_^

I'd like to think there are girls who think the same way I do, who keep themselves clean, are caring, and don't go out and do erotic things for the sake of it.

Also, looks aren't everything.

:cleris:

"Not all girls are like that, Thommas."
I trust you, but I near more than words...

"I've never even had a boyfriend before, and I'm 15"
Well sounds quiet normal...

"I guess it's cuz guys aren't attracted to a Christian personality, not I'm attracted to non-Christians."
Is Christianism so important in your country ? (US or what ??)
Here in France, religion has few importance... especially when it concerns love.

"I'm waiting for my perfect guy, and I will keep my Abstinence til marriage."
Would Aeris behave like that if she got not killed...?

"The Ultimate Gift to your partner is yourself."
I totally agree...

"How can you give yourself when you've given it to someone else? If you do it enough times, you'll have nothing left. That's my impression anyway."
Nicely said... but so few people think that... when you do believe something like that... how much chance is there you will meet a girl that you love and who also feels the same way we do ?!

"I'd like to think there are girls who think the same way I do"
I'd like too :)

You're speaking to one of them. :)

Britain. It's not just guys, but it says in the Bible not to marry those that don't love God, because otherwise they will never understand the love that God needs, and the love that you need. ^_^

To be honest, I'm not really that bothered, lol, because everyone is different. First of all, I take FF7 seriously, but Aeris is just a CGI character, that has a wonderful personality. :aeris: It's the way the creators made her, and I know if she was real, maybe she souldv'e done different. But I won't measure myself up to anything else except God's Word and what He has told me to do. ^_^

I know that if I put my trust in God, He'll bring the right guy to me, and maybe, if it's His Will, I might not marry at all. But the key is to wait, and if that day never comes, then so be it.

There's also the point of waiting, and thinking that they are not going to come, what are you going to do if they do come? ^_^

"and if that day never comes, then so be it. "
SO BE IT ?!

"Britain. It's not just guys, but it says in the Bible not to marry those that don't love God, because otherwise they will never understand the love that God needs, and the love that you need."
First of all, I completely respect what you believe... however you seem to be so dependant of this "God", like you can't live by yourself... it's like if Aeris said something and I would do it... Aeris... God... there is no real difference between them... there are just images... they don't exist and they just say things we can believe or not...

"There's also the point of waiting, and thinking that they are not going to come, what are you going to do if they do come?"
I'll be ready don't worry :P
I've not always been ready though... but you know 20 year it's about time at last !...

As for religion... I thank the guys who invented it... because it allows me to hope that I may meet some girls who dit not make "it" with many guys just for fake pleasure...

My Faith is not just a so-called "God" I believe it to be true, but that's my opinion.

I'm not just saying it for you, if God doesns't want ME to marry, then tha's fine. I rely on Him, and Trust Him, that He's doing the right thing, because God is perfect. ^_^

...you're... pessimistic! A lot of girls have sentimental reasons. I do. Besides it is said that boys are most likely like that: make 'it' in an egoistic way.

I also see Aerith as something perfect. I tended to be like her but now I do it in my own way.
All girls aren't superficial. You just have to look closer: the way they act is a protection. Talk to girls: you'll discover fragile things. And it's the same thing with boys. You say most girls have no hearts but by saying this I could think you're the one without heart! But you're not at all on the contrary. But you wouldn't say to everyone that you love Aeris, hein? So they may not understand...

Yeah. Most girls I know are full of sentiment, even Kourtney! I'm serious! But my boyfriend gave me a ring for my birthday, and I still wear it everyday, even since he's gone. It's the sentiment that counts, it's knowing that he loves you for your mind before your body. I am still a virgin, and I asked my guy before he left if when we had the chance if he would have gone through with having sex, and he said no. He respected me. That's a really big part of being in love, I think. I don't know if any of that made sense, but that's what I think.

That's the thing about fantasy - it always seems more appealling than reality. :wub: I wouldn't worry about your infatuation with Aeris; you're clearly an imaginative, sensitive and idealistic person and those are not bad qualities to possess. Don't try and kill those parts of your personality just because you're directing your feelings at a fictional character. Keep dreaming. :aeris:

As for whether or not you'll find a girl like her, don't go looking for a carbon copy of her personality; if you look for similar traits in another person, your chances are better. Emotional strength, courgae, compassion, a passion in her beliefs, a sense of humour...these are qualities a lot of women out there have. Think of the qualities Aeris possesses that you admire, and look for these and I guarantee you'll find them. Then it's all a matter of finding the right girl - not the one who has the most of these qualities, but a girl who has some of these traits you admire but also makes you feel happy, and whom you care about for herself.

But it's not the sort of thing that you find the first day you go looking. Don't be discouraged - you're young, you have plenty of time to find love and happiness. ^_^

I'm just curious: do you believe that this applies to your significant other too? Would you prefer your future husband to be a virgin till the wedding night too? Would you not accept a man, no matter what there was emotionally between the two of you, if he'd been intimate with a past girlfriend? :unsure:

Because my body isn't currency. ^_^

I agree with you that the ultimate gift to your partner is yourself, but in my opinion, there is much more to "myself" than my body, or rather, one part of my anatomy. I am my mind as well as my body, and I can offer a partner much, much more than just sex (lovely as it is). People have worlds of love in them, have rich and beautiful personalities, and are full of complex feelings and emotions...and to me, that is far more valuable than someone's virginity. If I love someone, then it doesn't matter that I'm not the first person they've been with or that they're not the first person I've been with. What's important is that we're together now, and hopefully will remain so.

I believe that a person's experiences enriches them, rather than pollutes them. Having experiences, changing and growing forms your character. How can a person love you and dislike the experiences that made you the person you are today? How can a person who loves you resent you for having felt and expressed love for others? Having sex won't make you lose an aspect of your identity, it'll just make you develop that identity a little, and that's not so scary. People should be less ashamed of who they are, the feelings they experience, and of what they want. In my view, people don't "take" a part of you by having sex with you - it's a shared experience and you will be just as whole afterwards.

Why? What if a person loves every single sexual partner they've had? How does that make them empty by the time they find The One? Again, I think that growth and change and self-discovery, even through sexual experience, are good things that enrich you, rather than drain or contaminate you. Sex is not a destructive or evil thing (although, I'll concede that it can be - it all depends on the person).

I really wish you wouldn't use a word like "clean", AerithR. :sad: It implies that girls who don't wait till marriage are somehow the opposite, dirty. :ermm:

I'm sorry...you're an atheist (I'm sure I picked this up off you in another thread, sorry if I'm mistaken), yet you're grateful for religion because it keeps some women virgins?? I'm not saying that virginity or abstinence is bad, everyone is right to make their own decisions and take charge of their own lives, but it just seems like a strange reason to "thank" religion. Many religions' attitudes towards sex are downright repressive and have taught people to hate their own bodies and deny their feelings...that's really unhealthy and damaging. I'm not saying that religion is evil or that all religious people are repressed or anything like that (and if I've offended anyone them I'm sorry), I'm just saying that religious attitudes and control over our sexuality can (and have) also do a great deal of harm. -_-

I should hope so. If he is a Christian, and he was raised that way, then yes. If they become a Christian after he'e committed that sin, I'll still love him, because I know if he had had the choice, he wouldn't have done it.

I'm talking spiritually, as much as physically. There are some things that you can comprehend if you know God as your Saviour. I'm not saying that you must be a big Christian with all ethical power and stuff to understand, but basically what I'm saying is, that you need the power of God in your life to fully understand what He means. ^_^

Sorry to offend, but they can thik what they like. :huggle: It's the way I see it and the way God sees it. If you don't like what I say, then that's fine. But my opinion won't change, unfortunately. :huggle:


I don't hate my body because I want to save myself for marriage, I just think that the experience of sex should only be shared with the one you love. For me, it is a very special thing, so special, that I have that opinion. Now, by deduction, most people don't think that way. Therefore, it's not as special to them as it is to me. :)